Husbands often become insensitive toward their wives’ feelings. If your husband hasn’t been asking you how you are or doesn’t seem concerned about you, you may wonder if he is ignoring you. Husbands ignore wives for various reasons. For example, he may be going through a hard time, causing him to focus on resolving some issues instead, he may be genuinely busy at work, or he could be unhappy with the marriage. Regardless of the reason, the sudden change in his behavior may affect you adversely. You may have tried to talk with your husband about this, but he appears to be in no mood for conversation. If you feel neglected and want to know why your husband doesn’t pay attention to your needs, this post will help. Read on as we list some possible reasons your husband is ignoring you.
Possible Reasons Why A Husband Might Ignore Wife
There could be several reasons for a man to ignore his wife or for a woman to feel ignored by her husband. We have listed some of them here.
1. When there are communication issues
In most cases, a lack of healthy communication can leave the wife feeling neglected. For instance, a quarrel between you two could make you say something harsh to your husband, knowingly or unknowingly. Later, you may forget about it and go back to being normal. But your husband is still hurt and angry and could start avoiding any conversation with you, instead of telling you what’s bothering him. Without proper communication, the gap between you two could get bigger and harm your relationship.
2. When friends become a priority
Sometimes, you may feel neglected when your husband spends more time with his friends than he does with you. In some cases, he may not be intending to ignore you. But in some cases, the neglect could be deliberate, with your husband wanting to spend more time with his friends and not you.
3. When you keep finding faults
Disagreements and arguments are common in any relationship, be it old or new. Sometimes, intentionally or unintentionally, you tend to end a discussion by blaming your husband or by pinpointing his faults. And when you do that but fail to acknowledge your mistakes and apologize even when you are at fault, your husband may get miffed. If this becomes a pattern, it could take a toll on your husband, and he might ignore you to avoid any conversation that could result in conflict.
4. When sexual life is not on track
Whether you are newly married or have been married for years, physical intimacy plays an important role in your relationship. Without it, the relationship becomes boring. If you and your partner are not able to enjoy sex, chances are you will drift apart, and your husband may start to look at other ways and ignore you. Talking about it and trying to find ways to make your sex life interesting can help, but ignoring each other or the silent treatment won’t.
5. When stress is constant
Stress could be due to various reasons – financial pressure, workplace responsibilities, family issues or something else. Any of these could adversely affect your husband’s mood just as it could affect yours. He might not be able to spend enough time with you as he used to, and you could interpret that he is ignoring you.
6. When he is cheating on you
Infidelity or having an extramarital affair could be a possible reason behind the growing distance between you and your husband. If your husband likes some other person, his behavior starts to change. He tries to stay away from you or ignore you. But, unless you have proof, you should not come to any conclusion. Sometimes, what you think might not be true. These were a few common reasons that explain why a husband may ignore his wife. Some other factors at play could include the individual’s past, constant fights, trust issues, or too many responsibilities. The key to resolving the problem is to identify the cause and then think about what to do and what not to do.
What To Do When Your Husband Ignores You?
If you feel your husband is neglecting you, you need to act sensibly.
1. Give him some time and space
When your husband is ignoring you, and barely responds even after you say something several times, chances are he is preoccupied with other things on his mind. So, try and give him some space to figure things out. Sometimes, both you and your husband need to take a break from the mundane stuff and let things go at their own pace. Instead of worrying or getting furious, stay calm, and give him time to get back to his usual self.
2. Be kind and positive
He may stonewall you, disrespect you, or simply be rude to you. Try not to let these things affect you. It may be difficult, but being rude back to him won’t make things any easier. Be mature and put your relationship before your ego. When you are gracious and friendly with him during the bad times, he may realize how his behavior may be hurting you.
3. Initiate a healthy conversation
A relationship without communication may lead to misunderstandings. Usually, men stop talking when they are worried about something, and this could worsen with time. You should sit with your husband during these situations and try to get them to talk about it. If it is something that you did to hurt them, apologize, and make things better. A healthy conversation is better than the blame game that couples get caught in when they disagree with each other.
5. Try to fulfill his needs
Men, usually, are not so expressive. They might want something but may not always ask for it. While you cannot gauge their needs or ask them about it each time, try to talk about it and create a communication system that lets you be honest and transparent about what you want. And try to fulfill each other’s needs, be it affection, love, appreciation, or respect. While these are things you should do if your husband ignores you, there are certain things you must refrain from doing.
What Not To Do When Your Husband Ignores You?
Your intentions may be right, but your actions or words could make things worse between you and your husband. Here are a few things that you should avoid doing when your partner is distant.
1. Don’t argue
You may get angry with your husband when he spends more time with friends or when he forgets something or when your sex life is not great. But arguing and fighting will not get you anywhere. So instead of losing your temper and picking up a fight and arguing over and over again, sit and talk about it like adults. The key here is to control yourself and stay calm.
2. Don’t bring the past
If something wrong has happened in the past, it should be left in the past when you want to see a happy future with each other. If you are always bringing the past, it means you are punishing your partner repeatedly.
3. Don’t shut him up
When your husband is ignoring you, do not ignore him back. Marriage is not a game or competition where one partner always wins. It is a journey that you both have to make together, holding each other’s hands. To re-establish your bond, let him know that you understand his feelings and support him, no matter what he is going through. If he speaks, listen to him; don’t shut him down. By doing a few things and not doing some, you will be able to resolve any issues that have made your husband distant. A little introspection and analysis of how your own behavior in the relationship has been can also throw light on why your husband is ignoring you.
Questions To Ask Yourself
Even while you are talking, probing, or understanding your husband’s behavior, you could try and ask yourself a few questions.
- When did everything start changing between us? When was the last time everything seemed normal? Did you have a disagreement recently? Try to pinpoint the situation when things started to change to understand the reason behind your husband’s behavior and address it.
- Did I pay attention to that incident, or did I brush it away? If you addressed the issue that may have triggered the change in your husband’s behavior, then why is it still damaging your relationship? Do you think you forgot something? If some things are left unaddressed, try to deal with them and move forward.
- I have tried everything to make things better, but my husband’s behavior is not changing. What should I do now? If nothing is changing in spite of giving a lot of time and attention to your husband, then you should think about your future. Do you want to give it some more time and another chance, or you want to move ahead? Before making any decision, make sure you talk to your husband about it. Don’t make any decisions on assumptions.
